The author doesn't want her daughter to strive for perfection.Courtesy of Natasha Thapar-OlmosI've always been a perfectionist, pushing myself to the extremes for success.I felt like a failure when I became a mother, so I had to shift my perspective.I now want my daughter to embrace failure and be resilient.I am a trifecta of eldest daughter stereotypes: overachiever, people-pleaser, and perfectionist.