Dear Amy: More than 50 years ago, my sister married a guy who skipped the States after being drafted into the US Army (it was during the Vietnam War). I was also drafted and served, including going to Vietnam. My mother was totally against my sister marrying this guy because he was on the lam. I was asked to meet with his parents when they came to my Mom’s house, with instructions from my parents to make it very clear that they were totally against this marriage, making me the bad guy in this scenario. My sister told our mom that if I wanted to attend the wedding, the invitation was left on top of my mom’s refrigerator.