A wedding therapist said couples shouldn't wait until they're engaged to discuss things like kids and money.laflor/Getty Images Many couples wait until they're already engaged to talk about their long-term life together. But wedding therapist Landis Bejar said it's better to address some topics before a proposal. Discussing how you want to raise your children or handle finances will prepare you for married life. An engagement can feel like the start of a new chapter for many couples.