The normal form "how you would" is just this, "you would" is a conditional form: if X, then you would Y. "If there are any messages, this is how you would like to receive them." no question here, just an affirmation. The correct way to phrase your sentence is not one of the two you proposed. Here are the correct ways: More @Wikipedia
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