Perhaps: "I would've/should've been a father, butd to be a father. For most listeners, the idea that you should have been a father would naturally be included no matter which way you said it. We can make the second part of the sentence more conventional. Perhaps: "I would've/should've been a father, but my (our) child died due to a cord ... More @Wikipedia
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