1. 'It is he' sounds very formal. 'It is him' is grammatically correct and is in common usage. HE is used for subjects and predicate nominatives. HIM is used for objects of preposition, direct objects and indirect objects. You could rephrase the sentence: I relate to him most of all. Surely not. There's no rule of English grammar requiring a ... More @Wikipedia
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