The author, left, and her wife created a new name when they married.Courtesy of Kylie SapphinoGrowing up, I didn't think I'd change my last name when I got married. But when I came out as a lesbian and met my now-wife, I changed my mind.Rather than choosing one of our existing last names or hyphenating, we created something new.Before I came out as a lesbian, I was sure I wouldn't adopt the last name of my future husband.