DEAR MISS MANNERS: When I visited my family with my newborn son, they could not stop talking about how handsome he was — and how much cuter than his sister (my first child, who is 3 years old). On that afternoon alone, I must have heard the words, “He looks much better than his sister” at least 15 times from my mom and my sisters. I was hurt and shocked they would say such negative things about a child, but I was just grateful my daughter was not with me.