The author (not pictured) moved into a new apartment when she and her ex separated.Getty ImagesMy ex-husband and I separated, and I moved into an apartment near our family home.We wanted to prioritize keeping things stable for our three children.I found that after a decade as primary caregiver, having my own space was transformative.When my ex-husband of 13 years and I decided to part ways, we worked together to create as much stability as possible for our three children.