DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was wondering if you can suggest the proper way to deal with “present snoopers.” I caught my wife red-handed holding a Christmas gift I had purchased for her. I had specifically told her where it was hidden so she would not happen by it accidentally, but apparently I misplaced my trust in her. I did not think I was out of line when I told her I’d be returning the gift, but she became enraged.