The author and his now-wife don't want biological kids.Courtesy of the authorWhen I first met my now-wife in 2012, she told me she never wanted to be pregnant.In our 30s, we talked about adoption, not wanting to have a newborn and sleepless nights.I don't want to be a parent and I would like to spend my time doing other things.When we first met in 2012, my wife said that, due to health concerns, she never wanted to bear children.Perhaps, like a lot of young people in their early 20s, we still left open the possibility that, years down the road, when we were versions of ourselves that we could not yet imagine being, we might develop a desire — a need, an instinct, a calling, whatever it is that makes one want to be a parent — that we did not then possess.In 2015, years down that proverbial road, we were driving 300 miles from Alabama to New Orleans for a couples' weekend when my wife realized halfway through the journey that she'd forgotten her birth control at home, so we pulled over on the side of the highway, searched her luggage, and briefly but intensely revisited the question of whether we wanted to have kids.