The author, left, waited until her 30s to get married.Courtesy of Leah Hope PhotographyIn my 20s, I was focused on success, finances, and becoming emotionally ready for a relationship.I got married to my husband in my 30s, and my husband was 44.I'm glad we waited to get married because it taught us humility and how to connect.My spouse and I could be called particular, though we prefer idealistic.