Trisha Aguilar never envisioned herself in such a situation.He had called her stupid and dumb. And she made herself believe the belittling and degrading were tolerable — it would pass. Little did she know it would get worse.Aguilar met him when she was in her late 20s and divorced.The verbal abuse started before the young couple celebrated their first anniversary and escalated into physical abuse shortly afterward.“It blindsided me,” she said.