In those rare moments when Kalee Doche allows her mind to idle, when it slows down enough from her unrelenting 5 a.m. to midnight pace, that’s when the worry and the stress begin to squeeze her like a vise. The money. Her son. The future. Her job. And, of course, her husband John, almost the shadow of the man she married 25 years ago. “The hardest thing,” she said, carefully weighing each word, “is not having the time for him.