By Brandy Black | The Next FamilyI’m reading “Lesbian and Gay Parents and their Children” by Abbie Goldberg and it got me thinking about my passion for gay marriage. I will occasionally get into this debate with gay friends who don’t understand why it was so important for me to marry Susan.Before we got married (or had a “commitment ceremony” as some prefer to call it) I didn’t even realize what it would mean to me.