DEAR CAROLYN: I'm a stinking ingrate. Every Christmas or birthday I give my wife a list of things I want or need. She completely ignores my requests and tells me it's bad manners to request a gift, and that a gift should come from the heart of the giver. She knows tech gadgets frustrate me, but she continues to give me expensive ones I don't want. And when I show no interest, she gets angry and says I am ungrateful. I'd much rather create art and music or do outdoor activities than play around with electronic stuff.