Ask Amy: Hot Babe Seeks Same, And Friends Are Over It

Dear Amy: Over the last two decades my partner and I have helped a friend through several abusive relationships, rehab, and financial issues. Now, not unlike her history of addiction, she’s suddenly “found God” to the extreme. She carries a Bible, goes to Bible study, and her Facebook posts are all about God. She says she wants to move on from her past and yet she then posts: “In search of a Hot Christian Man, because I am a Hot Christian woman.” Yes, she is definitely a “babe” (and she dresses like one), but I’ve suggested a milder route in her search for purity. She disagrees, and says that I just don’t get it. Maybe I don’t get it, but if she got a job and dialed God back a few notches, I think “Hot Man” would find her. While entertaining, after more than 20 years we’re getting tired of the drama. Any thoughts on where God is going with this? Is this another addiction running its course? — Spiritual Dear Spiritual: As healthy as my own ego is, even I can’t claim to speak for God. Related Articles Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Readers respond with helpful advice Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Customer trips over stylist tips Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Wife wants her mom and husband to be friends Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Widow is caught in a “parent trap” Ask Amy | Ask Amy: A “thin and fit” person tries to understand obesity Perhaps you should think of this phase as just one more example of your friend’s higher power’s mysterious ways. Yes, she sounds exhausting, and yes, in my opinion this sudden hyperreligiosity might be promoted by the same brain circuitry that has fed her various addictions. Fortunately, this is not your lifelong job to sort out. I would think that after over 20 years of intervening and trying to protect your friend from her own addictions, passions, and choices, you would take this as your cue to “let go and let God.” Stand down. Your friend will likely want to draw you in for the save once this phase passes, her “hot guy” turns out to be a hot dog, or the sand beneath her metaphorical house shifts beneath her.