Dear Amy: My long-time male friend and I have been together for over 15 years. He lives just a few miles away. We talked about marriage for a while, but that impulse waned as time went by. I think we both believe that we have a good relationship and that marrying or living together might change that. He is a great, easy-going man who I do love dearly, and I know he loves me, too. Here is the caveat: We both have grandkids from our previous marriages. I feel as most grandmothers do that my grandkids are the loves of my life. He feels the same about his grandchildren. When it comes to sitting with the little ones, however, he is over the top. He babysits several days during the week, as well as staying overnight when his kids take a trip. As time goes by, I find myself alone more and more. Related Articles Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Mom is rebuked for being a rescuer Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Adoption puzzle comes together slowly Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Betrayal is bigger than “girl code” Ask Amy | Ask Amy: Grieving daughter needs more comfort Ask Amy | Ask Amy: A landmark birthday isn’t cruising along We used to do things together during the day (take drives, visit museums, bike, golf, etc.), but now days like that are few and far between. I never say anything because I understand his feelings for his grandchildren, and I don’t want to start any fights or create ill feelings. Lately, I’ve started noticing other men — I think more out of the need for companionship than anything else. And yes I have dated a few other men and have been intimate with two men. I do feel some guilt, but not enough to cease looking. What can I do? — Lonely in the Sunshine State Dear Lonely: Your friend has taken on a new family.