Dear Amy: Two years ago, my father-in-law called to inform his son (my husband) that he was being disinherited because, in my father-in-law’s words, “We don’t need his inheritance.” He stated that his daughter who lives with him and takes full-time care of him would receive his money. Seven years ago, we moved away from the area to be closer to our grandkids. Prior to our move we fully participated in both of my husband’s parents’ care and occasionally helped to support his sister.