Dear Amy: I have recently found out via my younger sister that our father has been diagnosed with pancreatitis. This is the first time I’ve heard this, and am hurt that he hasn’t said anything to me. My father has always had a problem with alcohol. Last Christmas Day, my fiancé and I had a sit-down with him — an intervention, if you will. I expressed concern that this alcohol problem would lead to illness, and warned him that if he didn’t stop drinking, it would eventually lead to his death. He brushed it off as if he knew better. My first son was born March 2022, my second in January 2023. I want my dad to be a part of their lives, as he is their only living grandfather. Once I learned of his new diagnosis, I feel like my dad doesn’t want to admit that he has a problem and that I’m completely right about him. I’ve got my own family now and I can’t ALWAYS be there for him. We live out of state, and for months he has been “planning to visit.” I feel as if we are always the ones going to visit him, which is difficult right now. My fiance and I are in the midst of starting a business together.