(AP) — They know you mean well, but when you say to a parent whose child has cancer, "Oh, I'm so sorry," or "I'm praying for you," there might be better ways you can communicate your compassion. McDowell is the head of 10 Strong, a group that started as 10 moms of children with cancer. Ask the child, "What's your diagnosis?" Kids with cancer know a lot about their disease, and many are eager to talk about it. Often, the night someone asks Mia about her cancer, she'll ask to sleep with her cancer toys — the 30 or so stuffed animals and such she was given by people while fighting cancer. McRobbie is a breast cancer survivor and author of "Why Is She Acting So Weird?