ABC The season finale of "The Bachelor" showed a controversial scene in which Arie Luyendyk, Jr. broke up with Becca Kufrin — the woman he originally proposed to in order to get back together with the runner-up. Some fans are calling Arie's behavior during the breakup "abusive." INSIDER spoke to relationship experts to find out how to define Arie's behavior during the finale. On last night's season finale of "The Bachelor," fans of the show were stunned to witness one of the most dramatic moments in the franchise's history.