The author, not pictured, has just started going to couples therapy.Claudia Burlotti/Getty ImagesWhen my partner and I started couples therapy, I was surprised by a few things.I learned that the therapist isn't there to pick sides and that therapy could be joyful.I also realized that this type of therapy is all about recommitting to your partner.My partner and I have been in couples counseling for about six months.I wish I could say that therapy has been peachy keen, that I have never ugly cried during a session, or that the world is now filled with sunshine, rainbows, and engagement rings.