Amelia Heppner.Courtesy of Amelia Heppner Amelia Heppner worked in restaurants for almost a decade. When she started wearing red lipstick, she said her tips from men significantly increased. Her "high school cheerleader" look might've drew men to her, which was gross, Heppner says. This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Amelia Heppner, a 32-year-old former server and bartender in San Francisco, California.