Dear Eric: My sister-in-law is one of the kindest and most giving people I know. She volunteers at her church, at our local YMCA and at our golf club. She has driven friends several states away for medical treatments.
However, my brother/her husband of 30-plus years is not a social guy, and this irritates her to no end. She will complain to anyone who’ll listen about him. She recently started complaining to me about other things he does, such as not playing enough golf so she can have alone time, and his inability to find her choice of wine in Costco.