Dear Eric: My husband and I are in the middle age of life and have had a very happy marriage of almost 30 years. He adeptly manages the household, and I support our family financially by running my own successful small business. But we have a significantly different view of what constitutes a “clean house.” We were both raised by immigrant parents from different cultures and whereas my childhood family’s culture prized cleanliness and orderliness, my husband’s culture put very little value on these principles.